And so the separation begins...
On Wednesday September 9th the boys will be starting am (and by am I really mean AM 7:45am to be exact!) preschool three days a week (M, W, F) at Greenbrier Primary School. Connor and Braden are very excited to join all the rest of their "Little Panthers" with the most "Pride" and start "Growing With Panther Pride!"
Their school mascot is the panther and their school colors are...wait for it...blue and green! I'm serious-I could not make this stuff up!
And so the separation begins...
The separation of the boys from Daddy and Mommy (sniff, sniff)...
but also...
...the separation of Connor from Braden and Braden from Connor...
We got their teacher assignments in the mail and Connor will be in Mrs. E's class and Braden will be in Mrs. B's class (I know, it's funny B-Braden...he is also in room B)!
Most people know what a great debate that this has been for Mike and I. The school's policy is to separate the twins but we have the option to lobby for them to be placed together.
Mike has stood firmly on the keeping them together side of this debate where I can see the benefits and draw backs in either case.
I see the benefits of NOT separating them. Being away from Daddy and Mommy and starting school is a great enough shock and then to take their other half away from them on top of that will be quite an adjustment for any set of multiples.
I also understand that singleton's go through a very similar set of shocks when they too begin school and that having any sibling in a classroom can be a distraction.
They say that twins can become codependent or one twin becomes dominate and the other a follower. These were never concerns of ours with Connor and Braden.
They are both very actively involved in their playgroups and they socialize exceptionally well together and separately-no differently to me than our friends that have two children close in age in our groups.
They are not dominate/non dominate pairs or competitive with each other to me they compliment one another very well. Braden is our little social butterfly who loves to run around with lots of pals while Connor prefers to to find one bud to hang out with.
After much debate we decided to keep the boys separate as the school recommends because we feel that while they are twins and therefore a special little duo that they are both very sound and strong individuals on their own.
We look forward to seeing how they "grow" from here!
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I say if they show signs of stress from not being together then let them be together until they are more emotionally mature. The schools think that all children grow and mature at the same rate. Just like you say... They are both different little people and very much individuals so they may just flourish without incident. However, if they need each other right now, I wouldn't necessarily call it co-dependent. (wink)
Success to your family this year!
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